Dating people in the forces
We've been married for 5 years now, we have a two year old and are both Senior NCOs.
I've never been married, but I've had two relationships fall apart due to cheating while I was away.
"Every suicide case I know was caused by a woman finally pushing them over the edge.
The last thing you need 8 months into a deployment is a very hateful letter telling you she has taken everything and had your dog put down.
The military is its own beast though and you never know what its going to do. Are you dating someone who is also in the military? If they are in the military, at least they will understand the exact nature of the kind of BS you need to deal with and how you can't be there every single minute of the day.
If you are going to date someone (especially if they are a civilian) they better be the most secure, honest, compassionate, understanding, and mature person, ever.
I have noticed that people who have been married for awhile and then gotten into military, or if someone has been established in the military for awhile and then gotten married, their relationships tend to be better than someone who gets married right before or right out of basic training or similar circumstances.
For example, although many men get married without a house and a car, Chinese women will often say that they’re looking for these things because that’s the sort of person who probably has a stable career and will be able to provide for her and their future children in the long-term. As one contestant on China’s most popular dating show put it, "I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle." Every parent is different, of course, but in general Chinese parents expect to be more involved in their children’s relationships.
It’s not uncommon for parents and grandparents to set their children up on blind dates with suitable matches they’ve found.
I drive 600 miles to my girlfriend every month to a month and a half to see her for a couple of days. It takes a lot of communication, strength, and honesty on both sides.
My ex, an infantry officer, just couldn't deal with a relationship. He didn't even want to spend any time together before he went to Ranger school, and being a good gf I was understanding....