Christian dating advice kissing
It would be especially helpful to take the inventories mentioned above to the counselor for their input. It is very important that the couple receive affirmations from family and friends during this stage.If they do not (unless there is a good reason), the couple should take the time to listen to the concerns and take steps to ensure that they are embracing and working through them. Once a couple arrives at the point that they “know” that they want to be married and have all the affirmations that they can receive, they can move from the Christian dating stage with confidence into the engagement stage. I do not recommend a prolonged engagement once the couple decides to get married.This often means that a healthy bonding is not taking place and the emphasis is upon self-satisfaction in this Christian dating relationship. It is very important to look for CHARACTER issues in each other during this stage of Christian dating.Give yourself enough time and enough settings where character issues can surface. Individuals can “mask” character issues for an extended period of time – especially a few months during the fantasy period of Christian dating.It is important that there be a “pre” engagement period of time.There is no set time frame for a pre-engagement period.This plan will include such things as spending time around family and close friends to enable each other to see how the other person builds and sustains all relationships. I do not suggest that the couple spend all their time together at this stage.
At least 4 sessions should be spent with a Christian counselor who is trained in pre-marital counseling.
But character is the foundation upon which commitment is built.
Character does not change just because one gets married.
The couple should be able to enjoy the blessings of God as well as family and friends as they move into a marriage that has been well planned and confirmed in a healthy process.
They can be assured that they have taken the steps to assure a long and satisfying marriage.